Things I’m Afraid to Tell You

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Something’s happening in the blogging world at the moment – something big.  For years I’ve been reading blogs, thinking how wonderful each post is, thinking that the writer must live this fantastic life.

Over the last few weeks there has been a wave of bloggers all doing ALOT of personal sharing – most of it uncomfortable and exposing, but also liberating and very brave.  I have so much respect for the ladies who are taking part in this movement right now.

It all started in March when Jess Constable of Make Under My Life wrote this great post about her virtual life and reality, two lenses she views her life through which she calls her Online World and her Real World Lens.

Today most of us have smart phones, a Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, blogs and websites we follow each feeding our virtual appetites.  I know I for one can get very caught up comparing my reality to the things I see around the web, whether that’s a beautiful picnic someone had in a park looking effortlessly cool, with their hunky husband, a gaggle of super close BFF’s, their baby in the Silver Cross pram, loads of yummy food they made themselves, the latest Townie bikes leaning against a tree with a piñata hanging from it and everyone’s having so much fun (see what I mean?!).

Today a lot of blogging is all about ‘face’, especially the lifestyle, design and style blogs.  Readers turn to these blogs for inspiration, escapism, and a glimpse into this cool and stylish life.  What the readers may not realise or think about (because why would you?) is that bloggers write tirelessly trying to keep up with themselves and each other, comparing themselves against others, all trying to grab the readers attention and imagination, whilst trying to stay true to their passions, remain original, all with the hope that their blog will be popular at the very least, and hopefully (if their blog is their livelihood) generate some sort of income for them.

This post from Jess led a number of bloggers to tweet about their shared concern about the disillusionment between true reality and what is depicted in blogs.  From this Twitter conversation came a challenge inspired by another of Jess’s posts Things I’m Afraid to Tell You.  Jess writes very honest posts – her whole blog is focused on being motivational and exploring the complexities of life.  When I read her list of things she was afraid to share with her readers I thought it was brave but wasn’t surprised she’d written this post as it was the sort of thought-provoking post I would expect from Jess – and that’s why I love reading her blog!  But what has occurred within the bloggersphere since (spurned on by Jess’s first wave, second wave, and third wave) is something else…  The creators of scenes like the one I mention above have opened up about their true reality, away from their blogs.  {Amazing!  So insightful and comforting.  Hands down, the best thing to happen to blogging to date!}

In an attempt to bridge the gap between reality and life portrayed virtually, bloggers have been using their virtual voices to give really raw and personal insights into their realities.

From reading all the ‘Things I’m Afraid to Tell You’ posts today I realise how many bloggers share similar thoughts and worries, and therein lies the best thing about this exercise – by sharing, all the bloggers can now take a great deal of comfort in each others hang-ups without shame or embarrassment!

Here’s a list of bloggers around the bloggersphere who have spilled and broken the seal on the things they try to keep hidden.  And why have they done this?  Because of a mutual respect for one another and for their readers – and that makes me so proud to be a fellow blogger!

Round one initiated by Ez from Creature Comforts:

Design for Mankind | Little Brown Pen | Beautiful Hello | Curating Style | Sweet Fine Day |The Jealous Curator | Happy Days | Sage & Berries | Really Handmade | Peck Life | Satsuma Press | Rena Tom | For the Easily Distracted | The Hemborg Wife | Vitamini Handmade |Courtney Khail Stationery and Design | Meg in Progress | Dando Photography Blog |Widdershins22 | Alison Citron | Pink Moon Daily | Just Pretty Things | From China Village |Tea with Me | The Darling Ewe | Not Your Average Ordinary | The Electric Typewriter |Elleby Design | Parsimonia {Secondhand With Style} | Life as an Artistpreneur | Hello Cupcake | Dellie | The A & B Stories | Pretty Little Things | Feistyelle | Nib & Zed | Well and Cheaply | I Ripple. I Dance. | Whitfield Awesome Blog | Foxtrot Press | Dry As Toast | The List of Now | Apple Blue | For the Love of | Four Flights of Fancy | Miss Modish | Snapshots & Secrets | Dirty Laundry | Bubby & Bean | Penelope’s Press | Little Nostalgia | Vale Design |Pikaland | Fleurishing | Print Pretty | Vespa Tales | Hazel & Agnes | Amanda’s Musings | Mo’ Funk Designs | Ordinary Mommy | Camp 1899 | In Honor of Design | Liberty’s Yarn | Love, Life & Pictures | Stacey Winters | Owl in the Rain | Living Life Creatively | Emma Elizabeth Clease | I Live in Vacouver Now | British Cream Tea

And today’s round two initiated by Megan from Mimi + Meg:

Cassie: Coco + Kelley / Christine: Court & Hudson / Caitlin: Sacramento Street / Roxy: My Cup of Te / Crystal: Blog / Meg: MIMI+MEG / Ashlina: The Decorista / Katie: Modern Eve / Erin: Apartment 34 / Erica: Design Blahg / Victoria: Vmac & Cheese / Christine: Miles to Style / Franki: Life in a Venti Cup  / Sue: The Zhush / Erika: Radiant Republic / Gabrielle: Savvy Home / Monika: The Doctor’s Closet / Naomi:Design Manifest /Tobe: Because It’s Awesome / Becca: {extra}ordinary wonders / Lynzy: Sparkling Footsteps / Hitha: Hitha On The Go / Sarah: Note To Self / Liz: So Much To Smile About / Sarah: Blogstar / Alissa: The Goods Design / Jessie: Style & Pepper / Erika: Small Shop Studio  / AV: Long Distance Loving / Maggie: Maggie Rose Blog / Nicole: The City Girl In Me / Priscilla: The Best Laid Plans / Jen:Concrete Jungle DC / Janelle: Food Fashion Fitness / Natalie: East Coast Chic

So, am I going to share my ‘Things I’m Afraid to Tell You’?  No.  I’m too scared.  Perhaps one day, but not today…
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